The First Look: A Moment Worth Capturing
A first look is one of the most intimate and emotional moments of your wedding day. It’s that one quiet pause before the whirlwind of the ceremony, where you and your partner can see each other, soak it all in, and just be present together.
But should you do one? What makes for a great first look? And how do you make the most of this moment—rain or shine?
After photographing countless first looks—including a windswept, cinematic moment at Chatham Bars Inn during a tropical storm—here’s everything you need to know.
What is a First Look?
A first look is when a couple sees each other before the ceremony in a private, intentional moment, rather than waiting for the walk down the aisle. It’s a time to connect, exchange emotions, and even read personal vows before the big event begins.
Why Have a First Look?
1. It Calms the Nerves
The emotions leading up to the ceremony can be overwhelming. A first look gives you both a chance to breathe, connect, and settle into the day together before standing in front of your guests.
2. More Time for Photos
First looks give you a head start on portraits, which means you’ll have more time to enjoy your cocktail hour instead of squeezing in every photo between the ceremony and reception.
3. A Private Moment for Just the Two of You
Your wedding day moves fast. A first look is one of the only times you’ll have alone before the celebration begins. It’s a space to be fully present with each other, without distractions.
4. Weather Can Be a Feature, Not a Flaw
Madeline and Mike’s first look at Chatham Bars Inn happened in the middle of a tropical storm—and it made for some of the most unforgettable, windswept images. The mist, the movement, the emotion—it was all amplified by the unexpected conditions. Rain, wind, or golden-hour light, a first look lets you embrace the moment fully.
How to Plan the Perfect First Look
1. Choose the Right Location
Pick a spot with great natural light and a setting that reflects the vibe of your day. Whether it’s a secluded garden, an oceanfront deck, or the quiet of your getting-ready space, make sure the location feels meaningful to you.
2. Think About the Reveal
Do you want a traditional tap on the shoulder? A dramatic turn? There’s no wrong way—just make sure it feels right for your personalities.
3. Keep It Private (or Make It a Moment with Loved Ones)
Some couples want their first look to be just the two of them, while others love having their wedding party or family watching from a distance. Decide what feels most natural to you.
4. Embrace the Unexpected
Weather, emotions, wind-blown hair—the best moments aren’t scripted. Let go of perfection and just focus on each other.
5. Consider a Personal Vow Exchange
A first look is the perfect time to share private vows, say something heartfelt, or even take a deep breath together before the ceremony begins.
Do You Have to Do a First Look?
Absolutely not! Some couples love the tradition of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony, and that’s just as special. The key is to do what feels most meaningful to you.
Final Thoughts: Making Your First Look Unforgettable
Whether it’s under golden-hour light or in the middle of a storm, a first look is about feeling, connection, and presence. If you’re considering one, my advice? Go for it. You won’t regret having this moment together before the rest of the day unfolds.
